What does it mean to be a people of Hope?

Do you ever have days when you feel like you’re standing in front of a bookshelf full of volumes with titles like Unmet Expectations, Regrets, or Fears & Worries? Or maybe it’s “Things I Said Yesterday That I Wish I Hadn’t” or “I Cannot Believe [This or That] Still Isn’t Working Right.” And although you know that mulling over these things never seems to fix them, you still feel oddly compelled to pull a volume off the shelf, thumb through it, and find yourself getting drawn in to one of the (rather unhappy) stories you find there? And it just starts your whole day off on the Wrong Foot.

I do, sometimes.

I talked to a friend of mine the other morning who was not doing this. She was, you might say, doing the opposite. She was expressing Hope. I don’t think either of would have necessarily called it that in the moment, but she was telling me how she was feeling this sense of uplift, of openness, of appreciation for her upcoming day.

It gave me pause from her in particular, because I happen to know she’d been recently divorced, had a fight with one of her best friends a few months ago, moved to a new town and has a hard job. I happen to know her son is on the autism spectrum and struggles with school. She has plenty of troubling volumes on her bookshelf that she could rifle through, any day.

But there she was, talking about feeling so supported by people and just by life. “All I have to do is ask for help – even just in my own mind,” she said, and she would start to notice all the help and support that was available all around her.

I was drawn in by her description. Just listening to the tone of her voice and her conviction that all would be well, I felt myself relax a little. Because I was having one of Those Days. With its own little pile of worries and nagging uncertainties.

But in that moment I found myself wondering, hm. Maybe I have a choice here. Maybe I don’t have to pull out an unhappy volume. Maybe I don’t have to start out on the wrong foot. I shared my metaphor with my friend and she said – yes! Then she responded with a completely different analogy. Those compelling stories, those voices – it’s like you have a 2 year old in the back seat of the car, she said. They have a lot to say, sometimes they’re unhappy and they complain, sometimes they cry and you do your best to listen compassionately. Sometimes they’re really happy and excited about something. But whatever you do, you don’t let them drive the car.

This month, what if we let Hope drive.

Can we? Negative stories can be awfully sticky. To imagine ourselves supported, to look for hope, to trust in ourselves and life and put those compelling Stories of Trouble back on the shelf, is not always easy.

Which is why we have resources, questions, and exercises available to us this month to help us practice putting Hope in the driver’s seat.

Let’s see what roads open up this month as we see where Hope leads.

~ Rev Ellen

Our Spiritual Exercise

Spreading Our Stories of Hope


Instead of options this month, we are all invited to do one single exercise together:


Spend some time remembering how you’ve been saved by hope.

And then bring that story of hope to your group to share.


Hope rarely descends or magically appears. Most often, it’s passed on. It comes to us as a gift. We don’t find it, as much as we receive it. And almost always, that gift comes in the form of a story.  Hearing tales of others finding their way through the dark helps us trust that light is waiting at the end our tunnels as well. Listening to others talk about their sources of hope helps us notice the many resources available to us. Simply put, hope can’t spread without our stories. Light doesn’t travel through the dark on its own. It hitchhikes on the tales we tell each other.


So this month, let’s give each other the gift of hope by sharing the gift of our stories. We all have them. Some of us will talk about that person whose belief in us enabled us to believe in ourselves. Others will talk about how we held on through depression for the sake of kids. More than one of us will name that moment when we realized that the darkness was not our enemy but actually contained a gift. At least one of us will likely talk about the magic of “faking it until we made it.” Still others may share their experience of stumbling upon one of those beautiful “It Gets Better” videos.  In the end, the details of the stories are less important than the act of bringing them all into the room. Surrounded by each other’s stories, the circle can’t help but become lit up.


Besides bringing a personal story of hope to your group, consider also bringing in a symbol/token that represents the essence of your story. You might also want to keep that symbol/token close to you during the weeks before your meeting, as a way of both helping you remember the details and offering gratitude.


During your group session, after everyone has shared their story, be sure to leave time for everyone to talk about what happened as the many stories of others washed over them.

“Extra Credit” Exercise:

A Week’s Worth of Hopeful Words


If you have the time for and interest in an additional spiritual practice this month, consider weaving the following poems into your daily meditation, journaling or walking practice. Focus on a different one each day. Consider the practice of reading through the poem 2-3 times, choosing a different focus question for each reading. For instance, when reading through it the first time, simply ask yourself, “What line or phrase pops out for me?” On your second reading, ask yourself, “Who or what am I in the poem?” Other focus questions might be: “What is the poem asking me to do today?” or “Who is the poem asking me to engage in a new way?”


Here’s the list of poems we recommend, but of course alter as needed:



Hope, by Lisel Mueller




Sweet Darkness, by David Whyte




The Winter of Listening, by David Whyte




Hope, An Owner’s Manual, by Barbara Kingsolver

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Still the Moon Increases, by Nancy Shaffer




What is Hope?, by Rubem A. Alves, Brazilian liberation theologian


Your Question


As always, don’t treat these questions like “homework” or a list that needs to be covered in its entirety.  Instead, simply pick the one question that speaks to you most and let it lead you where you need to go. The goal of these questions is not to help you analyze what hope means in the abstract, but to figure out what being “a person of hope” means for you and your daily living. So, which question is calling to you? Which one contains “your work,” and Life’s invitation?


  1. What if your darkness is not the darkness of the tomb, but instead the darkness of the womb? What if this pain of yours is not about death and loss, but new life trying to be born? Could it be that Life – like any good midwife – is calling you to “breathe and push”?


  1. Who is hope for you? Whose way of being in the world helps you believe that tomorrow will be better? What are you doing to ensure that their inspiration remains front-and-center rather than faded and far away?


  1. What might it mean for you to “be hope”? It’s one thing to believe in hope; it’s quite another to become it.


  1. Are you bringing more hope into the world than you realize? Are you sure that your everyday commitments and work can’t be seen as “bringing hope into the world”? If you don’t think of your work and commitments in that way, how might life look different if you did?


  1. Are you hopeless? Or have you let someone take away your hope? Have you allowed someone’s betrayal to convince you that the world is darker than it really is?


  1. Are you sure hope abandoned you? Or did your preferred dream just not occur? What if hope is waiting for you in a new and unexpected form?


  1. Why are you keeping your hopes so small? Are you really going to let that past disappointment dictate the size of your dreams?


  1. Are you calling yourself a cynic, but really a disappointed idealist underneath? Is your cynicism making you feel sane or suffocated?


  1. Is hope trying to sooth your heart or disturb it?  Is there a holy impatience inside you that is tired of waiting? Is hope itself telling you, “Stop hoping; Start acting, demanding, doing!”


  1. Are you clear about the responsibility we have for our grandchildren’s’ hopes?


  1. What if hope doesn’t swoop in and wipe away all the pain? What if hope is you standing squarely inside the pain and saying to it, “You are not the full story”?


  1. What’s your question? Your question may not be listed above. As always, if the above questions don’t include what life is asking from you, spend the month listening to your days to hear it. 


Companion Pieces

Recommended Resources for Exploration and Reflection


The below recommended resources are not “required reading.” We will not analyze these pieces at our small group meeting. Instead they are here to companion you on your personal journey this month, get your thinking started, and open you to new ways of thinking about what it means to be part of a people of HOPE.



Word Roots

From Old English/Frisian hopa meaning to wish for, to desire, to have confidence in the future.

The word despair comes from the Latin root de – without, and sper – hope.


Wise Words



Lisel Mueller

Full poem found here


“…It is the singular gift

we cannot destroy in ourselves,

the argument that refutes death,

the genius that invents the future,

all we know of God.


It is the serum which makes us swear

not to betray one another;

it is in this poem, trying to speak.”



Hope begins in the dark, it’s a stubborn hope that if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come. You wait and watch and work!

Anne Lamott


Hope has to be seen to be believed. It has to be made visible. It has to be something we can feel and touch. We are called to be persons who embody hope for one another. We have to be each other’s partners in hope.

Paul Wadell, theologian


Critical thinking without hope is cynicism. Hope without critical thinking is naïveté.

Maria Popava



Hope is the salve that keeps our broken hearts soft.

Ann Voskamp


Despair is anger with no place to go. Hope is the feeling we have that the feeling we have is not permanent.

Mignon McLaughlin


The Sun will rise and set regardless. What we choose to do with the light while it’s here is up to us. Journey wisely.

Alexandra Elle


Hope also has something to do with presence — not a future good outcome, but the immediate experience of being met, held in communion, by something intimately at hand.

Cynthia Bourgeault


There is something compelling about the fact that Christmas comes, no matter what. The celebration of the birth of Jesus comes, no matter the season of your heart. The Prince of Peace, the baby that would bring a message of universal equality, compassion, forgiveness, and love is reborn again and again and again, no matter our state-of-mind or being…indeed, in spite of it. Perhaps that is the real miracle of the season, that hope and possibility cannot be denied.

Cynthia Frado


You can cut all the flowers but you cannot keep Spring from coming.

Pablo Neruda


“The future is dark. But my faith dares me to ask: What if this darkness is not the darkness of the tomb, but the darkness of the womb? What if our America is not dead but a country still waiting to be born? What if the story of America is one long labor? What if all the mothers who came before us, who survived genocide and occupation, slavery and Jim Crow, racism and xenophobia and Islamophobia, political oppression and sexual assault, are standing behind us now, whispering in our ear: You are brave? What if this is our Great Contraction before we birth a new future? Remember the wisdom of the midwife: “Breathe,” she says. Then: “Push.”…”

Valarie Kaur, A Sikh Prayer for America


Sweet Darkness

David Whyte

Full poem found here


“When your eyes are tired

the world is tired also.

When your vision has gone

no part of the world can find you.

Time to go into the dark

where the night has eyes

to recognize its own.

There you can be sure

you are not beyond love…”


The Winter of Listening

David Whyte

Full poem found here


“…What disturbs

and then nourishes

has everything

we need…”



The day widened, pulled from both ends by the shrinking dark, as if darkness itself were a pair of hands and daylight a skein between them, a flexible membrane, and the hands that had pressed together all winter — praying, paralyzed with foreboding — now flung wide open.

Annie Dillard


Hope is a touch of graceful humor, no matter what’s occurring. The ability to laugh, the ability to see the ridiculous, the ability not to tense up too much, when things become impossible, just to face them anyhow. A touch of humor. Let’s say laughter through the flame… That’s hope: Humor, guts, and courage, no matter the odds.

Charles Bukowski


Everyone has been hurt. Many people have been hurt so deeply that their scars are vivid reminders of visceral pain. Yet, not everyone walks around with a vocal and audacious negativity that can be harmful to others. What you’re blaring to the world through a megaphone when you are openly and ceaselessly cynical is that you are fundamentally wounded; that you are so hurt, you still aren’t capable of doing the work required to heal yourself.  People don’t naturally gravitate towards cynicism without some negative experience (or many) precipitating their response. So when you’ve been disappointed or hurt or let down, you use cynicism as a defense mechanism to protect yourself from being hurt again. The funny thing is, to anyone really listening, you’re doing just that.

Serene Hitchcock, Cynicism Hides Hurt


Scratch a cynic and you will find a disappointed idealist.  George Carlin


For comfortably situated people, hopelessness means cynicism and letting oneself off the hook. If everything is doomed, then nothing is required.

Rebecca Solnit, The Case for Hope


The danger of hopelessness is that we can lose each other. In times of hopelessness, it’s easy to get scared of everything and everyone. It’s easy to start believing that your neighbor is the problem and that hoarding is a better strategy than generosity. The problem is that when community starts to break down, we lose the most important source of hope we have: each other.

Rev. Sean Parker Dennison


Everything changes: there lies most of our hope and some of our fear…. If you take the long view, you’ll see how startlingly, how unexpectedly but regularly things change. Not by magic, but by the incremental effect of countless acts of courage, love, and commitment, the small drops that wear away stones and carve new landscapes, and sometimes by torrents of popular will that change the world suddenly. To say that is not to say that it will all come out fine in the end regardless. I’m just telling you that everything is in motion, and sometimes we are ourselves that movement.

Rebecca Solnit, The Case for Hope


Despair is often premature: it’s a form of impatience as well as certainty. My favorite comment about political change comes from Zhou En-Lai, the premier of the People’s Republic of China under Chairman Mao. Asked in the early 1970s about his opinion of the French Revolution, he reportedly answered, “Too soon to tell.””

Rebecca Solnit, The Case for Hope


Faith, wherever it develops into hope, causes not rest but unrest, not patience but impatience. It does not calm the unquiet heart, but is itself this unquiet heart in [all of us]. Those who hope…can no longer put up with reality as it is, but begin to suffer under it, to contradict it. [True hope] means conflict with the world, for the goad of the promised future stabs inexorably into the flesh of every unfulfilled present.”

Jürgen Moltmann, Theology of Hope


The message of the Incarnation is not to behold an innocent baby resplendent in inertia, but rather to take sides with a God who agitates for reform and shatters the status quo.

Doris Donnelly


Change and hope come from the margins.

Krista Tippet

What is Hope?

Rubem A. Alves, Brazilian liberation theologian

Full poem found here: http://mpleroy-eng.blogspot.com/2004/10/rubem-alves-full-poem.html


“It is a presentiment that imagination is more real and reality less real than it looks.

It is a hunch

that the overwhelming brutality of facts

that oppress and repress is not the last word.

It is a suspicion

that reality is more complex

than realism wants us to believe

and that the frontiers of the possible

are not determined by the limits of the actual…”




Living hopefully is not devoid of pain. Living hopefully means residing squarely inside of pain, naming it as real and still saying to it “You’re not the only story to tell.”

Moral courage video


To be hopeful in bad times is not just foolishly romantic. It is based on the fact that human history is a history not only of cruelty, but also of compassion, sacrifice, courage, kindness. What we choose to emphasize in this complex history will determine our lives. If we see only the worst, it destroys our capacity to do something. If we remember those times and places – and there are so many – where people have behaved magnificently, this gives us the energy to act and at least the possibility of sending this spinning top of a world in a different direction. And if we do act, in however small a way, we don’t have to wait for some grand utopian future. The future is an infinite succession of presents, and to live now as we think human beings should live, in defiance of all that is bad around us, is itself a marvelous victory.

Howard Zinn


Look at the facts of the world. You see a continual and progressive triumph of the good. I do not pretend to understand the moral universe; the arc is a long one, my eye reaches but little ways; I cannot calculate the curve and complete the figure by the experience of sight; I can divine it by conscience. And from what I see I am sure it bends towards justice.

Theodore Parker


Hope comes from looking back and knowing we are on that arc… Hope comes from looking forward and knowing can we harness the collective power of [the community around us]… Hope comes from looking [deeply] and knowing we can change, and grow.

Rev. Jay Wolin


“We are not saints, we are not heroes. Our lives are lived in the quiet corners of the ordinary. We build tiny hearth fires, sometimes barely strong enough to give off warmth. But to the person lost in the darkness, our tiny flame may be the road to safety, the path to salvation. It is not given us to know who is lost in the darkness that surrounds us or even if our light is seen. We can only know that against even the smallest of lights, darkness cannot stand. A sailor lost at sea can be guided home by a single candle. A person lost in a wood can be led to safety by a flickering flame. It is not an issue of quality or intensity or purity. It is simply an issue of the presence of light.”

Kent Nerburn


“Agent Smith: “Why, Mr. Anderson? Why do you do it? Why get up? Why keep fighting? Do you believe you’re fighting for something? For more than your survival? Can you tell me what it is? Do you even know? Is it freedom? Or truth? Perhaps peace? Could it be for love? Illusions, Mr. Anderson. Vagaries of perception. The temporary constructs of a feeble human intellect trying desperately to justify an existence that is without meaning or purpose. And all of them as artificial as the Matrix itself. Although, only a human mind could invent something as insipid as love. You must be able to see it, Mr. Anderson. You must know it by now. You can’t win. It’s pointless to keep fighting. Why, Mr. Anderson, Why? Why do you persist? “

Neo (“Mr. Anderson”): “Because I choose to.”

From the movie, Matrix Revolutions


Don’t think that your hopes are too audacious. God’s hopes for the world are even more audacious than you can imagine. Mary thought it audacious that God should choose her to carry God’s hope for the world, but it was true. The same is true of us.

Steve Garnaas-Holmes, unfolding light


Hope opens us to the future but releases us into the present. Advent draws our eyes toward the horizon as we watch and wait for the Christ who comes to us… Instead of luring us away from the present, however, Advent invites us more deeply into it, where the kingdom of God is at work even now. This is the nature of the hope that Advent cultivates in us. Rich with memory and infused with expectation, hope calls and enables us to work here and now, in company with the [Sacred that] is already about the work of heaven in our midst.

Jan Richardson, from Circle of Grace



Advent is a season that seeks to build a world fit for the arrival of a child.  Rev. Dwight Welch


The season of Advent means there is something on the horizon the likes of which we have never seen before… .What is possible is to not see it, to miss it, to turn just as it brushes past you. And you begin to grasp what it was you missed, like Moses in the cleft of the rock, watching God’s [back] fade in the distance. So stay. Sit. Linger. Tarry. Ponder. Wait. Behold. Wonder. There will be time enough for running. For rushing. For worrying. For pushing. For now, stay. Wait. Something is on the horizon.

Jan L. Richardson, Night Visions: Searching the Shadows of Advent and Christmas


Advent: the time to listen for footsteps – you can’t hear footsteps when you’re running yourself.

Bill McKibben


Advent is a time of anticipation and waiting… [but it] is not the silencing and oppressive, “Wait,” told to the activist, but rather the internal preparation of holding stillness and building strength before action. If we need to wait, let it be the waiting of a farmer who knows that deep below the earth, her seeds are sprouting their roots. Let it be the waiting of a musician, who knows to count to just the right moment to strike the bell. Let it be the waiting of self-care, knowing that one’s body and spirit needs times of activity, and times of rest, in order to be effective.

Rev. Christina Shu

I still value hope, but I see it as only part of what’s required, a starting point. Think of it as the match but not the tinder or the blaze. To matter, to change the world, you also need devotion and will and you need to act. Hope is only where it begins.

Rebecca Solnit, from  The Case for Hope




Songs and Music


A Change Is Gonna Come

Sam Cooke



We Shall Overcome

Mahalia Jackson



Tyrants Always Fall

The Nields


One Day


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cXACMQtuuZI  (acoustic)


Bird of Sorrow

Glen Hansard


“Even if a day feels too long,

and you feel like you can’t wait another one

and you’re slowly giving up on everything,

love is gonna find you again

Love is gonna find you, you’d better be ready then…”


Hey World (Don’t’ Give Up)

Michael Franti


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O-oETzPKRX8  (acoustic)

“Hey world, what you say

Should I stick around for another day or two?

Don’t give up on me, I won’t give up on you

Just believe in me like I believe in you…”


I Hope

Dixie Chicks



Here Comes the Sun

The Beatles

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XANF_jUS3OI   (Nina Simone Cover)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=357gZV2Nfsk  (Richie Havens cover)



Ryan Bingham



Dog Days Are Over

Florence + The Machine


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0HuYEOO2r1g  (offering the song as a gift)
“Happiness, hit her like a train on a track…
The dog days are over
The dog days are done…”
Seasonal Songs


Within Our Darkest Night You Kindle A Fire that Never Dies Away

Charles Pope – Taize



The Christians and the Pagans

Dar Williams

Interview about the song: http://www.slate.com/blogs/outward/2015/12/24/dar_williams_explains_how_the_christians_and_the_pagans_became_a_holiday.html


Solstice Carole

Wyrd Sisters



Solstice Night

S J Tucker


“Our hearts bring back the light as all the earth must do. May stars fill up our sight with wishes coming true…”



Whether You Believe You Can or Believe You Can’t, You’re Right!

Kyle Maynard – Big Think


“When you have hope, you start looking for all the evidence as to why you are going to succeed; when you lack hope, then you start looking for all the reason as to why you’re going to fail.”


The Hopeful Darkness of the Womb

Valarie Kaur at Watch Night Service 2016


“The future is dark. But my faith dares me to ask: What if this darkness is not the darkness of the tomb, but the darkness of the womb?…”


Beyond Hope

Derrick Jenson


Reaching beyond hope to commitment


I Believe in Hope! (some explicit language)

Joanna Hoffman


“The truth is I pretend to be a cynic but I am really a dreamer who is terrified of wanting something she may never get…”   Maybe hope is stupid


What Is Advent Again?



The Hope for a More Simple & Meaningful Christmas












A Time of Hope: Finding hope and beauty in Afghanistan

The Moth


“No matter what they say, there is music!” A story about when the music began again.





The Place Beyond Fear and Hope
Margaret Wheatley

“Rudolf Bahro, a prominent German activist and iconoclast, describes the first step: “When the forms of an old culture are dying, the new culture is created by a few people who are not afraid to be insecure.”…  I don’t know what Bahro meant by “insecure”; however, I’ve noted that those who endure, who have stamina for the long haul and become wiser in their actions over time, are those who are not attached to outcomes. They don’t seek security in plans or accomplishments. They exchange certainty for curiosity, fear for generosity. They plunge into the problem, treat their attempts as experiments, and learn as they go. This kind of insecurity is energizing…”
Reflection: We’ve Hoped Our Way Into Our Current Crisis

Miguel Clark Mallet

“We’re urged to embrace hope as an antidote. Hope for a brighter day. Hope for justice. Hope for peace. Hope that compassion will win out. But speaking for myself, I’m giving up hope. Not that I don’t understand the impulse. It’s tempting to think that looking to the future will get me through hardship. But in my life’s struggles, hope hasn’t worked out that way. Too often hope has hardened into anticipation and expectation for specific outcomes…”



Hope in the Dark: Untold Histories, Wild Possibilities

Rebecca Solnit

Essay from the book found here


Darkness Before Dawn: Redefining the Journey Through Depression

Tami Simon (Editor)

Excerpt found here – interview with Parker Palmer:


The Warmth of Other Suns: The Epic Story of America’s Great Migration

Isabel Wilkerson

Review: https://www.theguardian.com/books/booksblog/2016/sep/08/books-to-give-you-hope-the-warmth-of-other-suns-by-isabel-wilkerson


The Handmaid’s Tale

Margaret Atwood

Review: https://www.theguardian.com/books/booksblog/2016/aug/29/books-to-give-you-hope-the-handmaids-tale-by-margaret-atwood










Movies and Television


The Shawshank Redemption


Andy says to Red, his friend and fellow prisoner, “You need it so you don’t forget there are things in this world not carved out of gray stone. There is something inside that they can’t get to – they can’t touch – it’s yours.”

Red asks, “What are you talking about?”

Andy replies, “Hope.”


Time to Choose


“A hopeful and helpful look at the positive efforts all around the world to stop the progression of climate change.”


Children of Men



Places in the Heart



Love Actually



Hope Springs









































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